<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Excellent Helper]]></title><description><![CDATA[Business coaching and mentoring for therapists and coaches.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 03 Jun 2026 09:37:37 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.excellenthelper.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Is it an invasion of your therapist's privacy if you ask questions about them?]]></title><description><![CDATA[As a registered and professional therapist, I do not find it an invasion of my privacy when clients like you ask me questions about myself!]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/is-it-an-invasion-of-your-therapist-s-privacy-if-you-ask-questions-about-them</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68248da78b15ca956eb3bba5</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 19 May 2025 11:45:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_8cbf24edcb1143f48bf9dd23c7cf72ed~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is it okay that I don't ask my therapist how they are?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Is it normal for you not to ask how I am, your therapist? It is not rude for you to focus on yourself in therapy and not ask how I'm doing.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/is-it-okay-that-i-don-t-ask-my-therapist-how-they-are</link><guid isPermaLink="false">682352ab50ab578f3a1bc823</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 13 May 2025 14:22:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_094f59bf8eb146ceab85a6e65697dfad~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Do therapists think about their clients after sessions?]]></title><description><![CDATA[I can't speak for other therapists, but for myself - I 100% think of my clients after we finish sessions!



I genuinely care about my clients. When I'm in sessions with them they have my full attention, undivided for the hour.  Even little moments during the week for me are sprinkled by thoughts of my clients.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/do-therapists-think-about-their-clients-after-sessions</link><guid isPermaLink="false">681dd05b2d8811f07a259ba2</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2025 10:01:20 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_11cf412d64834ccdaff0b8a56b10b4c3~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Will counselling help me?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Will counselling help me? Counselling is not always the solution that will help.  But - hand on heart - I can say both as a professional counsellor and someone who's been and out of counselling for years myself, that counselling can be really, really helpful.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/will-counselling-help-me</link><guid isPermaLink="false">680f5dc37302aaa8bd8d65ba</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 28 Apr 2025 11:18:51 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_c44797281d9f491abe74d1bc9b351f8d~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_814,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What is a free consultation call in therapy?]]></title><description><![CDATA[A free consultation call with me is all about me getting to understand you, where you're at, where you are at with your family or in your relationship, or if you're not in a relationship and you would like to be, whatever it is, what is on your mind and what you might be looking for from support with me.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/what-is-a-free-consultation-call-in-therapy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68075e41414482aa6b4997a2</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 22 Apr 2025 15:59:22 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_13c4f52478c94f088d9ca86fc949184a~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What does it mean that anyone can call themselves a therapist?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Unfortunately, psychotherapy and counselling is an unprotected profession, which means anybody can call themselves a therapist or a counsellor. But this is likely to change at some point soon because it's a needed and necessary thing to keep everybody safe.  And there are ways to make sure you're in good, safe and qualified hands.  ]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/what-does-it-mean-that-anyone-can-call-themselves-a-therapist</link><guid isPermaLink="false">680103a6c1ce7b3097ff437e</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 17 Apr 2025 14:20:47 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/a27c9a67b44842799bc46b4eca030bd9.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Is it normal that my therapist remembers loads about me?]]></title><description><![CDATA[In sum, your therapist may have a fantastic memory but rest assured 99.9% of therapists don't try to remember every detail. They certainly do not make notes about all the details that you share. 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Therapy helps to improve your life and]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/is-therapy-tax-deductible</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67e58025fe36f5984324f1aa</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 27 Mar 2025 16:53:51 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_f91c262d508e47da8314867ab2d623f4~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[How are therapy notes protected?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Your therapy notes are super, super protected. They're only read and written and read by your therapist. 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A grea]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/charging-70-an-hour-are-therapists-just-in-it-for-the-money</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67c9b0efb1797c58cda3ecb1</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 06 Mar 2025 15:37:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_2d0e808ce29b4e079e37f57122a9ce55~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Where to start in therapy? ]]></title><description><![CDATA[People will say, "Lily, how will I know where will I start?"  There's no right or wrong place to start in therapy.]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/where-to-start-in-therapy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">678fb2bf0faacf9074478146</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 21 Jan 2025 14:59:34 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9266751e63594142828e29eb53a32e2f.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[67 Questions to Ask Yourself About Starting Therapy WHEN YOU’VE NEVER HAD THERAPY BEFORE]]></title><description><![CDATA[67 Questions to Ask Yourself About Therapy WHEN YOU’VE NEVER HAD THERAPY BEFORE]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/67-questions-to-ask-yourself-about-therapy-when-you-ve-never-had-therapy-before</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67375dbde8010a0df6291fe1</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 15 Nov 2024 17:00:23 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/1050515be1704a70a1e71a341f488c30.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Therapy without talking]]></title><description><![CDATA[A person doesn't have to talk to feel, or understand or make changes. 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If talking freely means swearing, I actually want them to swear!]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/can-i-swear-in-therapy-sessions</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6711143a4924c1f5c2c8cad2</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Fri, 18 Oct 2024 16:00:19 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/nsplsh_2dfddc987374455697ef0a39dfe976f9~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What coaching is and isn't?]]></title><description><![CDATA[What coaching is and isn't. Coaching is about goals.  Coaching is about taking action and making progress!]]></description><link>https://www.excellenthelper.com/post/what-coaching-is-and-isn-t</link><guid isPermaLink="false">670e70ffc8a3644428e1d3ff</guid><category><![CDATA[Understand therapy]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 17 Oct 2024 11:52:30 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/b6cc97cd442a4d25990e2e93c2199139.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>lilyllewellyn</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Vulnerability and self-awareness are the first steps (not talking)]]></title><description><![CDATA[I dislike hearing that talking is the first step to making a change.  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